What is Homosexuality?

Written by Frank Worthen

 

Lawrence J. Hatterer, author of Changing Homosexuality in the Male, has given this definition: “One who is motivated, in adult life, by a definite preferential erotic attraction to members of the same sex and who usually, but not necessarily, engages in overt sexual relations with them.” We’ve found this to be a good working definition, though a full explanation of the condition of homosexuality goes much deeper.  Read more

The Four Stages of Healing

Written by Doug Houck

 

Dr. Elizabeth Moberly, in her book, Homosexuality: A New Christian Ethic, defines the homosexual condition as “a deficit in the child’s ability to relate to the parent of the same sex in general [coupled with] a corresponding drive to make good the deficit – through the medium of same-sex or ‘homosexual’ relationships.” The homosexual person seeks to fill a legitimate love need through erotic means.  Read more

The Centrality of Identity

Written by Alan Medinger

 

Although the healing of the homosexual man is in many ways an indirect process – flowing out of the broader changes in his spiritual life – almost every homosexual overcomer is going to have to confront all three elements of the problem. He will not recover until behavior, attractions, and identity have all been dealt with and to some extent transformed. Although his natural inclination may be to focus on behavior and attractions – because that is where he feels the most distress – I believe that the richest fruit will be borne in his life if he focuses most strongly (and early on) in the area of identity. Read more

Roots of Homosexuality

Written by Bob Davies & Lori Rentzel  

 

For a Christian coming out of homosexuality or lesbianism, the homosexual problem may loom as large as a giant Redwood tree: enormous, obvious, unchangeable, unshakable. But just like the root system beneath the Redwood forest, homosexuality also has roots. There are many things “below the ground” that feed the gay identity and hold it firmly in place. This article overviews some of these key issues.  Read more

Control: The Last Stronghold of Lesbianism

 

Written by Alan & Willa Medinger

 

I feel like a wounded animal, backed into a corner by her enemy and all I can do is to try and strike a frightening pose and make a fierce sound, hoping I can scare him away.” In one of many counseling sessions, the young lady was expressing–perhaps more clearly than ever–the feelings that had dominated her life and were such a major factor in her lesbianism.  Read more

How to Deal with Same-Sex Attractions

 

Written by Frank Worthen

 

One of the most difficult battles faced by those overcoming homosexuality is working through attractions they still have to people of the same sex. Often, the enemy capitalizes on the situation to induce guilt, condemnation, and feelings of hopelessness and failure.  Read more

A Realistic Approach to Attractions

Written by Alan Medinger

 

It took me 22 years, but I was finally able to come up with a definition of homosexuality that I believe is both succinct and irrefutable. Here it is: 

 

Homosexuality is the condition wherein a person’s primary or exclusive sexual and/or romantic attractions are to people of the same sex rather than to people of the opposite sex.

 

Simple definitions are often the most difficult to come up with, and such was the case here. When we think of homosexuality we think of gender identity confusion, Emotional dependency, sexual addiction, and on and on. But these things are not homosexuality. They are present in other people and they are not present in all same-sex attracted people. They are problems that are common to many same-sex attracted people, but they are not homosexuality. Read more